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writes:Im 27 yrs old, have Asperger's syndrome. Life hasnt been easy for me, though but it has been good.High school was good, but I struggled with the social side, but enjoyed the topics, except for maths , only really liked English and geography and chemical part of science.College was hell, I couldn't fit in with the people and I felt low a lot of the time - depressed, not moping around type but generally low. Had few friends. I enjoyed the subjects, but the people around me weren't generally that nice, bullying was psychological torture and people ganging up on eachother - not that there were gangs.Then I went to university in 2005, it was good, enjoyed my course, but struggled with social skills and making friends, resorted to going the library, as many people with Asperger's syndrome do.2006 I had some work experience at an office, it was OK, but I left after a month because I did not enjoy it that much, I felt unfulfilled. It was only temporary anyhow.2007 onwards I have had various small jobs, but as such they've been here and there.I've found it hard to make friends, if I do I don't really see them that often, and they tend to be older than me, usually with partner/wife/husband and/or kids, so it's hard to see them.I do enjoy life now, but it's safe to say I would want help with trying to make friends - however, it is hard for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Honestly, I don't have aspergers, however I can tell you that even without the syndrome its tough to make friends. In my undergraduate I didn't make any friends, just a few aquaintances. I did make a few friend while at work, but that was very short lived. During my masters I made two friends and now since, NADA. In the last 3 years I haven't made one friend.
Not everyone has that amazing ability to socialize and make friends easily. I think the key is just not to take ones self too seriously and to be open to everyone out there. However, taking some initiative is important. Try creating a meetup group on meetup.com for people with aspergers. You'll be surprised to meet loads of people in the same boat. OR join any sport/hobby club, you'll find people from all walks of life who are searching for friends. Although it might look simple, creating and maintaining friendships can be tricky and difficult.
Good luck!
P.S: Don't be so hard on yourself :)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 It can be difficult for a lot of people to make new friends, and off course harder for someone like yourself who has Asperger's. Maybe you could look in to some groups that might be in your area for people who's social skills are effected. Talk to your doctor and see what they recommend or even go to a counsellor who could help you deal with your life.
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